Momwe mungalankhulire ndi ana za matenda anu amisala

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Kukhala kholo kumakhala kovuta m'malo abwino kwambiri - koma ngati kholo lilinso ndi vuto lamavuto amisala, zovuta zakukhala kholo zimatha kukhala zovuta kuzisamalira. Monga kholo lomwe limakhala ndi nkhawa komanso nkhawa, ndimakonda kuda nkhawa kuti izi zingakhudze bwanji ana anga. Kodi ndingawafotokozere bwanji ndipo bwanji sindine makolo wamba kwa iwo m'njira zomwe amatha kumvetsetsa ndikukula kuchokera?

Kuyamba, tiyenera kuzindikira kuti makolo omwe ali ndi matenda amisala amakhalabe ofunika komanso ofunika. Ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti kulimbana ndi thanzi lamisala sikuchotsa phindu kapena zomwe zimapangitsa kholo kukhala moyo wonse Maureen Gomeringer , MSW, LCSW, psychotherapist komanso wothandizira wotsogolera ku MindPath Care Center ku Carolina Partners ku North Carolina.

Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa pankhaniyi chifukwa nkhawa, kukhumudwa, ADHD, komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo zitha kubweretsa manyazi kwa makolo kotero kuti angayambe kukayikira ngati ana awo angakhale bwino popanda iwo, atero a Gomeringer. Pali zochepa chabe zomwe yankho la funsoli ndi inde.

Zovuta zakulera ndi matenda amisala

Komabe, kukhala kholo lomwe limalimbana ndi thanzi lamaganizidwe kumabweretsa zovuta zina. Nkhawa ndi kusokonezeka kwamaganizidwe mwina ndi mavuto omwe makolo amakumana nawo kwambiri, akuti Victoria Shaw , Ph.D., LPC, ndi mlangizi woyenera komanso mphunzitsi wa makolo . Izi zimaphatikizaponso kukhumudwa pambuyo pobereka komanso nkhawa, zomwe zimakhudza amayi pafupifupi 10% mpaka 20%.

Mwachidule, Kukhumudwa kungapangitse kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri kuchita ntchito zazing'ono komanso kudzisamalira, osasamalira zosowa za mwana wake, akutero Shaw. Kholo lomwe limapanikizika limakhalanso ndi vuto polumikizana ndi mwana wawo, ndipo amatha kukhumudwa kapena kukhumudwitsidwa ndi zomwe mwana wawo akufuna, zosowa zawo, ndi machitidwe ake.

Ana amayang'ana kwa makolo awo kuti akhale ndi kudzikonda, ndipo makolo akakhala ndi chithunzi chawo chomwe chimasokonezedwa ndi matenda amisala, zimatha kupanga njirayi kukhala yovuta kwambiri.

Kulephera kudziletsa ndikudziwongolera momwe akumvera kumatanthawuza kuti ndizovuta kwambiri kuthandiza ana anu kuphunzira kudzilamulira, akutero Shaw.

Mavuto a nkhawa amatha kupangitsa makolo kukhala oteteza kwambiri kapena kudzipatula pagulu. Ichi ndichinthu chomwe ndikulimbana nacho ngati kholo ndikukhala ndi nkhawa zamagulu. Masewera amasewera ndi zochitika zina zimandipangitsa kukhala wopanikizika kwambiri, ndipo zomwe ndimachita mwachibadwa ndikufuna kuchoka. Ngakhale izi zimandipangitsa kuti ndisamakhale ndi nkhawa zambiri, zitha kupatula ana anga chifukwa amadalira kuti ndiwatsogolera.

Kuphunzitsa ana anu zaumoyo wamaganizidwe

Kaya ndinu kholo lokhala ndi matenda amisala kapena ayi, muyenera kuyamba kufotokoza zaumoyo wamaganizidwe anu kwa ana akhanda ndikupitiliza ndikusintha njira kuti zigwirizane ndi msinkhu komanso kukhwima kwa mwana.

Gomeringer akuwonetsa kuti ndife achangu pophunzitsa ana zizolowezi zabwino zathanzi, monga kudya bwino, kugona mokwanira, komanso ukhondo. Chisamaliro chofananacho chiyenera kuperekedwa pakuphunzitsa ana momwe angasamalire thanzi lawo lamaganizidwe.

Kumayambiriro kocheperako, makolo akaphunzitsa ana awo za nyama ndi mawu ndi ziwalo za thupi, kuyambitsa mawu omvera ndikoyenera komanso kwanzeru, atero a Gomeringer. Kuwonetsera kwa ana malingaliro awo ndikulumikiza kumverera ndi zomwe akuchita, chinthu, kapena munthu yemwe akumuyankhayo ndiye maziko a thanzi labwino.

Shaw amalimbikitsa kusiyanitsa malingaliro ndi zochita. Kutengeka sikulakwitsa, koma zochita zitha kukhala. Adziwitseni mwana wanu kuti ndi bwino kukwiya pamene mchimwene wawo akugwira [choseweretsa] chawo, koma sibwino kumumenya.

Kuyankhula zaumoyo wamaganizidwe ndi ana

Zomwezo zitha kugwiranso ntchito polankhula ndi ana zaumoyo wamaganizidwe a kholo.

1. Vomerezani ngati simunachite zabwino.

Gomeringer akuwonetsa kuti makolo ali ndiudindo pazomwe amachita, kuvomereza pomwe sanachite bwino ndi zomwezo.

Nenani zowona, atero a Gomeringer. Kukambirana kumatha kupita motere:

Amayi amakwiya msanga komanso kukhumudwa nthawi zina. Izi zikachitika, amayi nthawi zina amakalipa kwambiri ndipo samakhala oleza mtima-monga momwe ndidakulalatirani ndikunena kuti simusamala za chilichonse ndipo simunalemekeze chifukwa chakudula chakumwa chanu pamphasa. Pepani kuti ndidakuwa ndikuti simusamala chilichonse. Ndikudziwa kuti mumasamala kwambiri komanso kuti mumayesetsa kukhala osamala. Ndikudziwa kuti zinali ngozi. Ndipo ngozi zimachitika. Sindikukhulupirira kuti mumakhala wopanda ulemu. Nthawi zina amayi amalankhula mokwiya, ndipo sizabwino. Pepani. Ndigwira ntchito mawu anga kunena momwe ndikumvera m'malo mongonena zinthu zokwiya.

Nenani zomwe mwalakwitsa, komanso momwe mungayesere kuti musadzachitenso. Musaope kunena kuti mukupepesa ngati munakwiya.

2. Longosolani kuti matenda amisala siali vuto lawo.

Ana amakonda kukhala mkati, kotero ndikofunikira kuwatsimikizira kuti matenda amisala a makolo awo siali vuto lawo, kapena udindo wawo woyang'anira. Kukambirana momwe kholo limakhalira, monga momwe mungakhalire ndi thanzi lanu, kumatha kukhala kothandiza ngati kuli koyenera.

3. Akumbutseni ana kuti mumawakonda.

Ayeneranso kudziwa kuti makolo awo amawakondabe komanso kuti ali otetezeka, ndikusamalidwa, akutero Shaw. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka ngati matenda amisala a kholo amabweretsa kulephera kusamalira mwana wawo kapena zimapangitsa kusowa kwina monga kuchipatala.

Gomeringer akuchenjeza kuti mosazindikira mofananamo machitidwe osagwira ntchito ndi kuwonetsa chikondi. Ana ayenera kudziwa kuti makolo awo amawakonda, koma kuti chisokonezocho chimatha kuyambitsa chiwonetsero ndi chidziwitso cha chikondi chimenecho kuti chisokonezeke.

4. Fotokozani momwe mukupezera thandizo.

Chofunika kwambiri chomwe kholo lomwe limakhala ndi matenda amisala ndichotheka funani thandizo . Sizothandiza kunena kuti matenda amisala ndi okhazikika kapena osasintha. Kaŵirikaŵiri samakhala — m'mikhalidwe yakuya kapena kuchira, atero a Gomeringer. Matenda amisala atha kukhala osatha chifukwa matendawo amatha kubwerera. Koma zovuta zimatha kusintha kwambiri mothandizidwa ndi akatswiri, kuthana ndi maluso, luso lamalamulo am'maganizo, komanso chithandizo chachitukuko. Ndikofunikira kuti ana adziwe kuti kufunafuna thandizo kumatha kupanga zinthu bwino.

Ndi chithandizo choyenera, kudzizindikira, komanso kulumikizana kwabwino pakati pa kholo ndi mwana (kuphatikiza kumasuka kwa mafunso aliwonse omwe angabuke), makolo omwe ali ndi matenda amisala amatha kukhala osamala, omvera, komanso makolo othandiza. Kumbukirani kuwasamalira, muyenera kudzisamalira.

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